Have you ever noticed yourself getting caught up in the past with feelings of regret or guilt, and in the future with feelings of anxiety and apprehension? So many of us do it to the detriment of today. And the great thing about today is that everyday there is a new one! No matter what is past and what is to come, remember that every morning when you wake up you have a chance at a new beginning. That’s 365 chances at turning things around in your life every year! You cannot time travel; the past has been and gone and the future is yet to come, so focus on the present daily and make your life what you want it to be that day!
Whether you are employed, a student, a homemaker, where do your priorities lie? Do you find yourself running through the week wishing for the weekend as that is the only time you can relax? Maybe you don’t even have much of the weekend to do that either. Or do you put things off all the time and then end up rushing to get things done. Do you have to compromise on quality? Or cancel things that were planned way in advance because you haven’t managed your time well?
These 3 tips will help you manage your time more effectively.
- Ask the question: Why am I choosing to do this right now?-Is it a sense of obligation? Fulled by expectations of others? Or is it because it is something you really want to do and enjoy doing? Check in with yourself about whether or not what you are doing needs to be done right now or if it can wait.
- Ask the question: What are you missing out on by doing this right now?– Are you sacrificing something else that is is more important, more essential? Can what you are doing wait?
- Write a list of pros and cons of carrying out the task right there and then. But don’t this from a short term perspective. We can easily justify or excuse our behaviour in terms of how we are feeling or what others maybe be thinking if we base it in the here and now. But what about in the future? A weeks time, 2 months, a year. Is choosing to do something now going to help you in the future?
‘There is no such thing as work-life balance. There are work-life choices and you make them, and they have consequences’ – Jack Welch
One thing that is unavoidable, inevitable and a constant in life is change! Think about that. One thing you can always rely on in life is that things will change. If you find change difficult to manage then you’re going to find the journey of life a hard one. Why do we struggle so much when things around us change? Well change, can bring uncertainty and many of us struggle with the unknown. We like to know what is happening, exactly how it is happening and when, and then and only then do we feel we have some sort of control. And feeling in control makes us feel safe. But change can be a good thing! If you view change as a new beginning; a chance to try something new, learn something new about yourself or others, a time to learn and identify your strengths and weakness and a time for improvement then you can learn to embrace change. Go with it, not against it and it makes the transition easier for you.
“The only way to make sense of change is to plunge into it, move with it and join the dance” Alan Watts
Are there things in your life that you have thought about doing but just haven’t got around to yet? Maybe you got as far as making plans and you know exactly what you need to do but for some reason you haven’t taken any action. It is so easy to keep all our great ideas stored in our minds but the only way to benefit from them is by seeing them through! Maybe it’s a fear of failure or ridicule that has stopped you so far. Maybe its feeling so overwhelmed with the possibilities that you have stopped short of acting. The only way to ever know what could be is to step out of your head and into action. Maybe it doesn’t go so well. But maybe it does! If you never try the only thing that’s certain is that you’ll never know for sure.
“Thinking will not overcome fear but action will” W Clement Stone
There are three places in life we can choose to be; the past, the present or the future. When we dwell on past choices, the things we should have done that we didn’t, the things we chose to do that we wish we hadn’t, things that people said or done to us, then we are keeping ourselves in the past and we can never move forward. If we focus only on the future we cause ourselves to be worried and anxious about what we’ll do, how we’ll do it, what others will do to us or how it will all turn out and that can negatively affect behaviour by making us overly cautious. But if we can make the effort to ensure that we are living in the present so many doors can be opened. Doors to joy, doors to happiness, doors to change and change for the better. This month, try to make sure that you remind yourself that you can do nothing about what has already happened in the past and you cannot change what is yet to happen. Bring your focus to the life you have here and now. If you want to make changes; make changes to now. If you want to do new things; do them now. Make NOW what you want it to be so you can enjoy what it is.
“If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath.” -Amit Ray
When people look at your life on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social media platform what do they see? Are you all smiles and parties and great times with friends? Selfies taken at just the right angle and with the perfect pout or flex of muscles to hide the bits you’re less pleased with? Social media has made it possible to connect with people all across the world in a matter of clicks, and you can be any version of you that you chose! As fantastic as that is, it is important that we don’t neglect our real selves in favour of our online persona. It can become a battle to make sure that your life looks as happy/exciting/fulfilling/action packed as others online but there is more good to be gained from paying as much attention to your real life as you may be paying to your numerous social media profiles! I encourage you to turn off your social media for a day this month and focus on the things you want to do in life. Is there something you would like to do or to change? Try setting yourself a March goal. To focus on and spend more time with those around you. To finally getting around to cleaning out the spare room. Taking steps towards learning that language you’re always wanted to. The possibilities are endless!
“The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new”- Socrates
1. Distinguish between physical hunger and emotional hunger
When you are about to eat ask yourself ‘how physically hungry am I right now?’ This will require you getting to know what your hunger and fullness feels like. Physical hunger is normally located in the stomach, whereas emotional hunger can be located in the mouth with cravings for specific types of food. Physical hunger normally comes on gradually, whereas emotional hunger can appear suddenly as the result of an external or internal trigger. Physical hunger means that you stop eating when you are full, whereas emotional hunger can mean that you keep eating until you are way passed fullness as your aim is to deal with emotions… which food is not so good at.
Before eating, try rating your hunger and fullness on a scale from 1 to 10; 1= very hungry and 10= very full. Anything above a 5 or 6 and you are probably not physically hungry at all. By doing this you will be better equipped to decrease bouts of feeding emotional hunger with food.
In today’s competitive world, sleep is more of a luxury than a necessity. But sleep is important for the well being, both emotionally and physically for an individual. Insufficient sleep or no sleep has long lasting effects on health and psychology. If you have been experiencing insomnia, it may be due to a number of factors, including stress, anxiety or depression. In order to address your sleep problem, it is best to consult an experienced psychologist who can help you change your behaviour, manage feelings and emotions that may interfere with your sleep.